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“Every woman has a right to live
freely, without fear, and to make
her own choices and decisions”
For emergency assistance call the Police on 000
If you are currently unsafe phone
The Orange Door
Monday - Friday 9am - 5pm
Offers help to any persons
Referral to after hours agenciesViolent and controlling behaviours
It is never right for a man to:
hurt you physically — or even threaten you
scare, frighten or intimidate you
call you names
shame or humiliate you
damage your property or things you care about
try to control how you look, where you go, who you see, or what you do
keep you under any kind of surveillance
make you take part in sexual acts when you don’t want to
take control of finances or incur debts in your name without your permission
do anything else that makes you feel unsafe, violated or unable to live freely.___________________________________________________
It’s never your faultAll couples disagree and argue from time to time, but all of the above actions are forms of violent and controlling behaviour. Chances are, you’ve made huge efforts to keep yourself and your children safe. You’ve probably been very brave on occasions, and you’ve probably stood up for yourself in lots of ways — big or small. But regardless of what you say or do, you are never responsible for his abuse. He is. Using violent and controlling behaviour towards a female family member is a choice.
Men who are violent towards a family member usually don’t act the same way towards other people. Your partner or ex-partner might already have offered you excuses for his behaviour. Perhaps he blames his upbringing, or alcohol, or stress. Maybe he blames you, something you’ve done, or something he thinks you’ve done. This is common. Men often blame someone or something else for their behaviour. It’s part of not taking responsibility for their actions.
Whatever his excuse, we all need to remember that there are other men with similar upbringings, or who are abusing alcohol or feeling stressed, who aren’t violent or controlling. Men who are genuinely respectful of the women in their lives don’t blame or punish them if something — big or small — goes wrong.___________________________________________________
Your safety and wellbeingViolent behaviour can be physically dangerous. As well, violent or controlling behaviour puts you at risk of a range of other physical, emotional and mental health problems. It might also be making you feel powerless, worthless or bad about yourself.
It’s important to remember that violence rarely stops by itself. If anything, it’s likely to get worse. Men need to want to change, and they need support from a trained professional to make it happen.
(See our Family Violence — Anger Management Strategies for Men webpage for more information).___________________________________________________
Your children’s safety and wellbeingChildren are always affected by violent and controlling behaviour. Even if they never witness violence directly, they pick up on feelings and what’s happening. Research shows that children of all ages can develop physical and mental health problems when somebody uses violence and abuse towards their mum. As well, they are likely to have their own behavioural problems, including difficulties at school or with their peers.
Children who want to talk about what is happening at home can contact Kids Help Line, nationwide 24 hour phone support for children and young people.
Phone: 1800 551 800 or visit the
Website: www.kidshelpline.com.au
Family Solutions Child FIRST
Find support services for children, youth and their families in need of protection plus help in promoting healthy development.
Frankston City Council and Mornington Peninsula
Phone: 1300 721 383
60-64 Wells St, Frankston
Child Protection
Worried about the safety of a child in your family?
Phone DHS southern suburbs: 1300 655 795
WIRE (Women’s Information)
Phone: 1300 134 130
(Monday - Friday 9am—5pm)
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Exploring your options — Help and support for women and childrenThe best way to explore your options is to talk with a family violence worker. She can give you emotional support, and provide information about:
your legal options (including Intervention Orders)
different housing options in case you decide to leave
making plans if the man threatens your safety in any way
money matters.
Women sometimes decide, for a whole range of reasons, that staying with their partner is the best choice for them at the moment. Choosing this doesn’t mean giving up or resigning yourself to the violence. A family violence worker can help you to make a plan for looking after yourself and your children if you decide to stay. She can also help you if you choose a different course of action in the future.
Ask Someone Website and free App for your smart phone
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To contact the nearest family violence worker to you, call:Safe Steps (formerly Women’s Domestic Violence Crisis Service)
For confidential support and information call Safe Steps family violence response line toll free: 1800 015 188 (24 hours, 7 days)
- Risk assessment
- Emergency accommodation
- Safety planning
- Advocacy
- Referral
WIRE (Women’s Information)
Phone: 1300 134 130
(Monday - Friday 9am—5pm)
Website: www.wire.org.au
Mornington Peninsula Domestic Violence Service (Peninsula only)
Phone: 5971 9454
(Monday - Friday 9am—5pm)
WAYSS Family Violence Outreach Service
(Case management & ongoing support)
Phone: 9781 4658 — Frankston area
(Monday - Friday 9am—5pm)
Website: www.wayss.org.au
Domestic Violence Victoria
Website: www.dvvic.org.au
The Orange Door (Bayside & Peninsula)
Phone: 1800 319 353 Mon-Fri 9am - 5pm
Offers help and Support to any person experiencing family violence
Referral to after hours Agencies
Visit these websites for information about making plans for your safety.
Domestic Violence Victoria
Website: dvvic.org.au
Domestic Violence Resource Centre
Website: www.dvrcv.org.au
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